Cherie the Korat Cat – In Reminiscence. I’m scripting this put up simply two days afer shedding my beloved Cherie cat, fairly out of the blue, which was an enormous shock
Dealing with the Grief of Dropping a A lot-Cherished Pet
Cherie Berry Cat 17/07/09 to 05/02/25
There aren’t any phrases…..I’m totally heartbroken. My Cherie went to sleep without end in the midst of the night time and I don’t know what I’m going to do now……she was a much-loved member of the household, and after a really quick sickness of simply 48 hours, she simply light away.
The home already appears empty and lonely with out her, the empty cat mattress and hammocks, in addition to my great-grandmother’s rocking chair, are all stark reminders that’s she now not right here, within the bodily sense.
17/07/2009 to 05/02/2025
Charunee aka Cherie my beloved Korat cat
Cherie was a shy however pretty soul, along with her good emerald inexperienced eyes, and silver-tipped velvet gray fur, she was a diminutive cat with an enormous persona, when you she received to know and belief you.
Typical of her breed, she was very vocal and in addition possessive of her human, which was me – she bonded with me instantly, my husband in a while in her life.
She may very well be bossy, and demanding when she needed you to play along with her – however she was a mysterious, intelligent, playful, loving, light and really stunning cat who was an integral a part of our household.
She was definately a “lap cat” when play time was over, sleeping on our mattress, and sitting on my lap EVERY night time, once more demanding I sit down, then “herding” me upstairs at 10pm to mattress.
She liked “fishing’ video games”, with a toy or a group of feathers on the top of a string, but additionally chased to retrieve thrown mushy toys as properly, with a mushy stuffed “chickie” being her favorite toy that she carried round the home.
She handed away on our mattress, with me speaking to her and stroking her, it was fast however such a shock. I used to be and I nonetheless am bereft, the grief frequently coming in waves, as I attempt to keep it up, cooking, writing, going buying and so on.
She’s going to all the time be with me, in spirit and though many individuals say that animals don’t have a soul, I urge to vary, as she most positively has a soul, which surrounds us and lives on in our house.
Tomorrow, earlier than the Pussy Willow I ordered arrives, I’ll plant snow-white snowdrops {that a} pal dropped by for me in the present day, to plant round her shared resting place (with Nina), so annually they are going to continually remind me of her life, and Nina’s life too.
Cherie and Nina
On a chilly Autumn day in 2013, I travelled to Nottinghamshire from London, the place I used to be staying with my daughter, and picked up two oriental cats, who have been retired from breeding, and have been being re-homed.
One was Nina, a Blue Burmese, and her companion, Cherie, a Korat, who got here as a “Purchase one get one Free”, as Nina’s fixed companion.
Initially known as Nana and Charunee on their pedigree certificates, we remaned and shortened their names to Nina and Cherie.
They each travelled again to SW France the place I used to be residing on the time, and lived with us there till we moved again to the UK in 2017.
The truth is, they’ve each moved with us thrice, and all of us eventualy settled fortunately within the Lincolnshire Wolds in December of 2021.
As I write this in February 2025, the tears are streaming down my face, as I’m nonetheless in deep shock on the sudden and sudden demise of Cherie, who handed away within the early hours of the fifth February.
It was virtually one yr since I misplaced Nina, who had terminal kidney failure in January 2024. I wrote about her analysis and life right here: In Reminiscence of Nina
Cherie Cat
And so it was, that simply two days in the past, on a spring-like late winter’s day, with our resident blackbird singing a joyful refrain, we buried her wrapped in a blanket at 12:45, (along with her two favorite toys, a sprig of rosemary and a hellebore “winter rose”) by the holly hedge, and behind a climbing rose within the cottage backyard.
We then sprinkled Nina’s ashes in along with her, so they’re collectively once more eventually. A short lived stepping stone was positioned on high of her closing resting place, and I’ve ordered a Pussy Willow, to both plant or to placed on high of the stepping stone in a pot.
I positioned a small posy of backyard flowers on high, with 2 roses from a bouquet I used to be given, and secured them with a big river pebble.
It’s all been so sudden and my coronary heart is breaking – however no less than she’s in our cottage backyard, in a sunny spot, which she would have liked being a solar worshipper.
How do you address the ache, it’s onerous as you attempt to full day by day family duties, work as normal, however you simply received via the motions at first.
I feel one of the simplest ways to deal with the lack of much-loved pet, be it a canine or a cat, is to hold out small rituals which assist…..reminiscent of taking a look at photographs of them, certainly printing some favorite photographs to go in frames.
In case you are burying them within the backyard, or sprinkling their ashes, make it significant with poems, music and even simply considerate silence. Discuss to them as if they’re nonetheless right here – I used sit down down on a backyard chair and chat to “Willow” my deceased Burmese cat on a regular basis a few years in the past, by her closing resting place.
Plant flowers, bulbs or small shrubs on their graves, or possibly add a small backyard decoration or statue to mark the place they’re buried. Even a big stone or an ornate stepping stone is a stunning thought.
It’s very private I do know, however I feel permitting your self to mourn and cry is wholesome, in addition to take time to be quiet, to be reflective – to suppose and keep in mind.
I’m nonetheless going via the early phases of mourning – somthing I’ve been via many instances earlier than – it’s onerous, and but I do know it would grow to be simpler.
Discuss to family and friends, or name a Grief Centre that many animal charities have, reminiscent of Paws to Listen at Cats Safety within the UK.
As I’ve instructed my household, shut pals, and folks I do know on social media of my loss, I’ve been overwhelmed with their kindness, help and full understanding, which has helped enormously.
I hope this helps, in case you have every other options for me and my readers, PLEASE do go away a remark beneath.
It’s early days for me, however I’m comforted that I can look out of the window and see there each Cherie and Nina’s closing resting place is, in my cottage backyard, Karen
Consolation Meals and Treats for Bereavement
