00:00:00: Introduction
00:01:27: Thought for motion 1: distinction questions
00:04:31: Thought for motion 2: common journalling for reflection
00:05:31: Go-to guru
00:05:49: Related podcast episode
00:05:56: Last ideas
Sarah Ellis: Hello, I am Sarah.
Helen Tupper: And I am Helen.
Sarah Ellis: And also you’re listening to the Squiggly Careers podcast. This episode is a part of our Expertise Dash sequence. We have recorded 20 episodes, every of them are lower than seven minutes lengthy, and we hope they will show you how to to construct some profession improvement momentum. In each episode, we discuss a Squiggly Talent, what it’s and why it issues; we share an concept for motion from every of us; and provide you with a go-to guru and a podcast episode so you’ll be able to be taught extra. We would actually such as you to show your expertise dash right into a studying streak. And so for everybody who completes 20 days of their streak, we’ll offer you a free 5 Expertise to Reach a Squiggly Profession digital workshop in September. In case you put up about your progress on social and also you tag us @amazingif, and we’ll be in contact to inform you extra.
Helen Tupper: And on this dash, we’ll be speaking about self-awareness. And self-awareness is a extremely vital talent in a Squiggly Profession as a result of there’s a lot occurring, we are able to get distracted by different individuals’s opinions and expectations, there are shiny objects that look actually interesting on the floor, like job titles and grades and all that type of stuff; however until we dive a bit deeper and we perceive what’s actually driving us, they don’t seem to be at all times the choices which are going to make us happier for longer. Once we’re speaking about self-awareness, it isn’t nearly understanding your self, which I feel generally is the idea we make, it is also about understanding how different individuals see us too. It is form of a two-way factor we’re making an attempt to work on with self-awareness.
Sarah Ellis: So, my concept for motion right here is one thing that I feel you are able to do by your self, but additionally works rather well inside a staff, and that is to ask your self some distinction questions. So, these are questions which are designed to nearly be at both finish of the spectrum to assist reveal one thing about you and likewise about all of you, and also you get to decide on what you share with different individuals. However we thought one of the best ways to convey these to life is to have a go at them and also you hear us discuss ourselves. So, we’ll do a pair dwell now for instance.
So, first distinction questions, “I am at my finest when…?” “I am at my worst when…?” So, Helen when you’re answering these what would that be, as an example inside your working week, “I am at my finest in my working week when…?”
Helen Tupper: So, I am at my finest in my working week when there’s something that must be moved ahead quick. After which if I used to be going to reply the second, my worst when, I am my worst when there’s a determination to press pause and speak and mirror, as a result of that urge to maintain transferring ahead, that is fairly jarring for me, so I feel I can generally discover that fairly tough and doubtless reply in fairly a tough option to it. What about you?
Sarah Ellis: I am at my finest when there’s numerous house for concepts and growing and creating in every week. I additionally love a great deal of selection in every week, so I like no two days to be the identical. I am at my worst after I really feel rushed, or that perhaps I am not considering one thing by means of correctly, or I am frightened about issues going flawed. And so even there, you’ll be able to hear in each what Helen and I had been describing, you already know when you simply say to somebody, “Be extra self-aware”, and other people speak loads about that in organisations, “We’d like everybody to be extra self-aware”, however then I do not suppose we’re sensible sufficient about then, nicely what does that appear like; after which what is the “so what”, “What is the ‘so what’ from that self-awareness?”
We speak loads about coupling consciousness with motion. And so even when you simply hearken to Helen and I there discuss ourselves at our greatest and at our worst, it does not imply you can’t ever have the bits. I can not do away with generally needing to make choices quick or generally needing to make progress when issues will not be going to be good. However I feel it lets you be agile and it lets you adapt since you’ve bought that consciousness.
Helen Tupper: Nicely additionally, seeing it and listening to it from different individuals’s views lets you perceive and assist them a bit extra and likewise spot the place there could possibly be some battle. So I might say Sarah’s finest is my worst and vice versa. So it is both complementary or creates battle, however even simply, you already know, it is about the way you see your self, how different individuals see you. Simply having the ability to have that dialog is a extremely good start line for this.
Sarah Ellis: So a few different contrasting questions simply to present you a couple of extra examples, “The factor I am wanting ahead to most is…?” and, “The factor I am wanting ahead to least is…?” so, sit up for your week and simply see what you are getting enthusiastic about and what’s draining your vitality. After which maybe one thing to look again over, so to mirror again on, and also you would possibly do that over the previous month, “The factor I am most happy with is…?” and, “The factor I am most dissatisfied by is…? So once more, these are simply self-awareness questions that can simply show you how to to grasp your self a bit extra, after which you can begin to determine the “so what” that goes alongside that consciousness.
Helen Tupper: And I feel Sarah’s questions can hyperlink actually properly with my concept for motion, which is all about common journalling for reflection. So, as an individual who does not discover it simple to press pause and mirror within the second, I do discover that having a daily routine of journalling actually, actually helps me. What I are inclined to do is simply free-write. I’ve a pleasant pad and I’ve a pleasant pen and I at all times simply do one web page and I simply free-write what is going on on in the meanwhile. However generally a little bit of construction might be actually helpful.
So for instance, you would use these distinction questions that Sarah has stated and simply spend a few sentences in responding to every of them, that will be actually helpful. One other factor that I do generally is I am going to do info and emotions. So if I am journalling as a result of I’ve bought loads occurring and my head feels a bit messy, what I discover actually helpful is to write down 5 info which are occurring proper now, like what are precise concrete info, after which 5 emotions. And even after I’ve written all of it down and bought it out of my head, I can learn what I’ve written and I really feel like I get extra self-awareness in consequence. And it is only a wholesome train for me to do fairly frequently.
Sarah Ellis: So our go-to guru on self-awareness is Tasha Eurich who has a superb TED Discuss that I would actually advocate watching, and that is the place we borrow our definition of self-awareness from, this concept of not simply understanding your self, however how different individuals see you too, which is why the opposite Expertise Dash on suggestions is especially vital to go alongside this episode. And if you wish to be taught extra by listening, episode 246 of our podcast is Six Methods to Speed up Your Self-Consciousness.
Helen Tupper: So thanks for listening to this Expertise Dash. We hope you discovered this and the opposite episodes within the sequence helpful. We would love your suggestions, you’ll be able to e-mail us, we’re helenandsarah@squigglycareers.com, and remember to subscribe so you do not miss out on an episode within the dash.
Sarah Ellis: In order that’s every little thing for this dash, bye for now.
Helen Tupper: Bye everybody.